sibling favoritism

Vee · Beauty Queen Joined: 02 Jan 2007 Posts: 101 Smiles: +5 36

My brother is 3 years older than me (he's 21) and I swear my parents think he is an absolute angel. Only thing is I've caught him in more lies than I can count. He's the kind of child that has breakfast served for him every morning for when he gets up. I'm happy having to make my own it just seems quite strange thats all.

Anways on to my rant. I get a ride with him to uni every morning. I'm up bright and early getting ready to go and am almost always ready ahead of him. This morning he waited until 5 minutes before we usually leave to even get up so I decided to slow down getting ready a little rather than be waiting a long time. We left the house about 3 minutes (max) later than we usually do. Because of a bunch of snow we had last night the drive took longer than it usually does but it still left him with plenty of time to get to class... he's cut it a lot closer on other days. Anyway he started freaking out telling me that I need to start being ready on time and that he's always sitting in the car waiting on me when its totally not true. I just said that I'm usually ready on time and if he wanted to leave earlier all he had do was tell me. He persisted to rant on so I just told him he was in a terrible mood and walked off. Needless to say, we didnt speak on the way home. Best of all he called mom during the day to tell her and now she has totally taken his side and both my parents think that I am being very stubborn about this. I'm sick of the favoritism towards him.

I just dont think its fair to be blamed for this and I really dont understand why it blew so out of proportion in the first place. Even though I know it doesnt sound like a big deal, all the little things (there have been plenty more) are adding up and I am getting really frustrated with it all.

Mom told me that i need to be more considerate considering he was up late studing for a midterm last night. Fair enough but before we had our fight I asked him if he had one today and he said no... mealwhile I had two today but I guess that doesnt count.

Anyways I just had to get that off my chest! Sorry for my bitterness. I'm just getting a little tired of this. If you read to the end, thanks!

crazykiki · Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 2:20 pm Post subject:

sibling favoritism is not a problem with my sis and me but lets see if i can help... i think its great that you stay calm, i would have never been able to stay so calm while my sibling was ranting and raving at me, i would say try approaching your parents or your bro tell them how you feel and see if that changes anything.
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Vee · Beauty Queen Joined: 02 Jan 2007 Posts: 101 Smiles: +5 36

thanks for replying!

I tried bringing it up to mom but she says that she isnt going to take sides. Meanwhile she gave me a guilt trip for how I need to consider his needs more and how I cant make him late for class... I dont get it. He wasn't late for class. I just think he is trying to get me in trouble or something. He's ignoring me like a big mature 21-year-old would haha. Its amazing how something so small and trivial can escalate like this.

I think I'm gonna check out bus routes haha Rolling Eyes

crazykiki · Posted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 3:09 pm Post subject:

No problem, im sorry things didnt go better good luck with the bus routes although its winter and kinda cold so it sucks to have to take the bus
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annabelle · Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 7:21 pm Post subject:

Well I can totally relate....I'm a middle child and it seems my parents always seem to side with my older sister or little brother. I can't really offer you any advice, but I can offer you a shoulder to cry on. Don't be scared to come here and rant about anything you need to, you will always have 2098467 listeners!
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serb · Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 8:59 am Post subject:

me and my sis are sooooo close as in
my mom was pregnant with me when my sis was 13 days old!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
im a niner shes in gr 10
they like her more cause she has 90's
i do the dishes EVERY day
sweep
and their excuse is she has a job
but she gets money for her job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Vee · Beauty Queen Joined: 02 Jan 2007 Posts: 101 Smiles: +5 36

^^ thanks! Happy

^ I have always wanted a sister, older or younger. I don't think anything can match a sisterly bond if you are close! Totally not fair if you are doing all the chores and not getting the credit though!! I'd demand it haha

tropical_pink · Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 4:59 pm Post subject:

haha, that sucks, but with me, im probably the favoured child, well thats what my brothers and sisters always say. Its only because Im the oldest and my parents tell me more than them and let me do more than them cause im older, and they complain about it, lol.

lime stars · Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 4:25 pm Post subject:

I have three other siblings. I'm the middle sibling, along with my brother (we are #2 and 3). Since he is the only male, he gets so much attention, and gets away with anything because he's a "guy." My little sister never gets yelled at because she's cute and is shy and cries/screams/shouts to get her way. My older sister is praised because she's so mature and responsible, because she has a job and is going to uni. She only has a job to get money to buy clothes to attract guys no DUH.

Sorry, ranting Happy

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duckprincezz · Posted: Tue Jul 03, 2007 9:56 pm Post subject:

That is one of the reasons I'm glad I'm an only child...though I do wish sometimes that I COULD have a sibling.

Gahh sibling favoritism bothers me so much, though I've never had to deal with it for the above reason. My mom did though, she was the oldest of three children; the other two were boys. My mom and the middle child both had dark brown hair and brown eyes, while the youngest had blond hair and blue eyes. My grandparents always treated the older children like free labour and set them to work on the farm all the time (they also had to get difficult jobs at the age of 14 and 13) while the youngest just got to sit around and do nothing even NOW. My grandparents even treat ME worse than the youngest's children (I'd call them cousins but they're so rude to me that I'd rather not)

Gahh! lol, I think I need to do some ranting of my own
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Mode.Reine · Beauty Queen Joined: 16 Jul 2007 Posts: 190 Smiles: 0 636

Yah it's because of this I thank God I'm an only child.
Because if i wasn't my rents would hate me and with good reason.
life gets too easy when your an only child, the attention the praise, the fact you can do dancing and skating and soccer and swimming and go to camp cause your rents have the extra money. Not to mention the clothes.

But then there are negatives like the loneliness. (I have 4 cats to amuse me though)
And there's no one to confide in or protect you. OR there's no one for you to protect. And it's just REALLY REALLY boring when you go to wonderland with your rents *groan*
And you have no one to back you up when arguing with rents.
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duckprincezz · Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 9:53 pm Post subject:

^ Agreed.
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