Work can suck my Jesus candy!

Marianas Wench · Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 12:34 pm Post subject: Work can suck my Jesus candy!

I got fired today. I was mad briefly, not because I lost my job, but because my boss is a hypocrite. I've hated my job for a while now, so that wasn't really the issue. It was that my boss said I needed to improve in some areas, and that he would update me every week as to how I progressed. Well, he didn't say anything, and I've been really strict on myself, so I thought everything was going okay. So today when I asked him "Then can you tell me why you said you'd update me, and then not follow through on your end, making me think everything was okay", he said "I feel you've been given fair warning". And that's exactly the kind of behaviour I spoke of whenever I've said the management are corrupt.

I thought if I got fired, I'd cry. But I didn't. I held it together until I got home, and then I couldn't stop. And I wasn't even crying about my job. It was about my boyfriend. We've been officially going out for 3 weeks, today. Well, I have some issues I need to deal with when it comes to our relationship; like I have jealousy towards how he interacts with his female friends, I have self-esteem issues, plus it's been hard for me to open up to him. I mean, I'm 21 and this is the first relationship I've ever been in. But he's such a great guy. And I've started some arguements recently, and since I work with him, I had this thought in the back of my head that he was only putting up with me because we work together, and he didn't want to end it because it would be awkward everyday.

Well, I phoned him for when he got off his shift, and told him I got fired. And I apologized for dumping it on him, but told him I felt I needed to talk about something. I just felt really vulnerable talking to him about my thoughts about us, with my voice cracking everywhere. I'm sure he actually heard me crying a few times, though I tried to hold it together. So, it's reassuring that he said "If I was tired of you, I would've ended it by now, even if we were working together. On good terms, mind you". He said it might even be better between us now, because it's not a work-relationship as well.

Anyway, I can't totally tell you why I made this a new topic. I was going to just add into a rant or something. But I guess I want opinions or advice? Like, do you think it could last between us... I think so, but I'm just down right now. I mean, we see each other everyday at work, have breaks together, take the bus home together, and usually hang out after work somewhere together. And now we'll see each other in the evenings when we can. It'll just suck seeing him less.

So, any thoughts? Or stories of your own? Anything you feel like sharing, even if it's unrelated... just if it made you think of something that's happened with you.

Thanks guys. <3
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DeadDisco · Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 3:56 pm Post subject:

Sorry to hear about. Well, kind of sorry. I know you've been hating your job for quite some time now.
For your relationship, I think it's a good thing that you're not going to have a work relationship. Things won't get spread around work, I know at my work if people are in a relationship, or coworkers have hooked up, everyone hears about it.
Also, I find that when you see someone so much (everyday at work, etc.) you tend to get sick of them. Or at least that's how it works for me. I don't know how your relationship is right now, but this way you get to see each other out of work, which I find is a ton better then not wanting to see each other out of work because you just had the day at work together. More meaningful time for you.
I hope some of what I said. None if it really went together or possibly didn't make sense..
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Shanti · Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 4:20 pm Post subject:

I gave you smilies. I'm talking to you about it right now so that's basically all I have to say. But I really hope you feel better, Heather. Tell me about shitty bosses. =/
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emcee · Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 10:26 pm Post subject:

Aww. I`m sorry that you had such a downer day...and I hope that you feel better now.

My boyfriend and I KIND OF went through something similar...except we made the transition from high school to university. It was weird, because I was used to seeing him everyday in high school, and he used to walk me home every single day...and once university came we were going to two different schools, and plus he is in this intensive engineering program, so he has a really tough workload, school everyday from 830-530 and tons of homework. So our relationship was kind of up in the air, because we didn`t know when we`d find the time.

But what we did was made sure we saw each other on a specific day (Fridays), and made sure that we kept those nights free so we`d be able to see each other. Of course, concessions are made when we`re super busy (for example around exams time or papers time), and when that happens we try to make it up on another day of the week.

Of course, it`s hard to keep up relationships when you don`t get to see each other that often but you always get those days to look forwards too, plus if you think about it holiday times usually allow you to see each other more. It really makes the time you spend together even more special.

luvthevalleyoh · Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 10:14 am Post subject:

kay WOAH this is what happens when I cocoon myself in books over spring break and forget msn. i think i'll just wait to say everything on there
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signolo · Newbie Joined: 21 Nov 2007 Posts: 17 Smiles: +1 133

i really don't have any advice for you on the boyfriend part, but i'm sorry to hear that you had such a bad day. **hugs**

Marianas Wench · Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 11:53 am Post subject:

Thanks guys, for the stories/thoughts/support. I've been looking for a new job, and it's tough, not to mention frustrating. But it's not the end of the world, something will show up.

The only thing that frustrates me now is my boyfriend and I were supposed to hang out yesterday, but he decided to stay home to work on his car. And I said straight-up "Well, do you want to work on your car, or hang out with me", and he said "I want to work on my car, but I said I'd hang out with you". That's what gets me... he used to say "I want to hang out with you", and now he's saying "I said I'd hang out with you". I don't want to feel like a chore to him. Or maybe it was just bad choice in words. I just miss him, and I don't want to seem clingy, y'know?

Honestly, it seems most of my friends are having a bad week too. Oy vey.
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emcee · Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 10:53 am Post subject:

Ah, boys...they never get it. Haha. Maybe you should tell him that you don't want him to hang out with you if he doesn't want to. I know it's kind of a double edged sword, but I mean...it's not really good for you to be in a relationship with someone whose heart isn't really in it anymore. Or if he has something he wants to do, maybe you should say "well how about you work on your car for a little while, then we can hang out?" so he can get the best of both worlds.

Good luck!

dbee · Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 10:07 am Post subject:

Sweet<3 · Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 2:59 pm Post subject:

I am so sorry about your job, and your boyfriend. I totally know how you are feeling about bosses not listening, and it's so hard because you can't say anything without sounding bad. Sad