RANT ><

jousy · Posted: Thu Oct 04, 2007 4:31 pm Post subject: RANT ><

I'm disgusted by this guy I met. We were acquaintances and I never really bothered about him cuz we rarely talked. A few days ago, I add him on Facebook cuz we went to the same high school, yadda yadda. He messaged me with the standard "Hey, what's up" which I politely answered cuz it's the decent thing to do.
THEN he launched into this very creepy series of messages and ugh.. I better put this rant into point form:
1) asking if I have a boyfriend. I said no and he said that he's attracted to me.
2) he said he would have asked me out back in high school but he didn't want to be rejected.
3) he's three years older than me, TOTALLY not my type (a wannabe jock), not attractive to me at all...
4) he liked me when we were in high school together = me in gr8, him in gr11.
5) he said, "I'm not like other guys. I really like Asian girls"

okay, I was prepared to gently let him down cuz I'm definitely not interested in dating him. but that last comment just... it made me feel ill.

this guy likes me because of my ethnicity. he claims to like my personality too but I think that's bullshit (forgive the crass language).

I feel like.. the object of a fetish. it's a sickening feeling. it makes me feel like if a guy of another ethnicity likes me, it's the result of his specific sexually attraction to Asians.

Logically, I should shrug this off as just a creepy guy but.. I can't.
I feel like I'm been judged differently because of my ethnicity..which scares and hurts me. I believe in equality, especially racial equality. Although I understand TENDENCIES for interracial attraction, I'd like to believe that the physical attraction is based on, superficially speaking, attractive features that could be linked to ethnicity. For example, if a Latina girl is really attracted to guys with blue eyes, chances are he's Caucasian. See my point?

In my opinion, fetishes for people of specific "colours" is almost like racism. I feel violated and harassed by this guy's persistent advances.. I feel even worse because it's based on my skin colour.

I guess, prior to this, I was just naîve.. so naîve that in love and friendships, colour doesn't matter. :icon_surrender:
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Vee · Beauty Queen Joined: 02 Jan 2007 Posts: 101 Smiles: +5 36

People can be so hurtful! What a jerk.

I met this guy in the caf at uni once and we starting talking. He asked me what kind of guys I was into. I found that a little strange since we had just met. I mean ya I like a good personality, someone who will laugh with me and love me for who I am. But thats a lot different than the response I got back from him. He told me he was going to marry an asian girl, he just hasn't found the right one yet. He went into crazy details about it but Ill leave that out! It was like he had a sick infatuation or something.

Anyways don't let a jerk like that make you feel bad. There are plenty of guys out there who will be attracted to you for who you are. And you seem like a really sweet person! Happy

t3hmimo · Posted: Tue Oct 09, 2007 6:22 am Post subject:

that's so creepy...

and what's that last line all about??? ew. But I've heard of usually older ppl that are asiaphiles xD. But that's so creepy because he doesnt see you as a human being then... he sees you as a toy/thing to amuse his interests!

>> *hug* sorry you had to go through that.
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Shanti · Posted: Tue Oct 09, 2007 5:09 pm Post subject:

Ummm...

I have Brazilian fetishes... I used to have one for European guys...
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Although I wouldn't make that kind of comment to a guy, esp. one I like.
I don't think he should have said that kind of thing to you, yeah it's pretty creepy. And I agree with you on the "attraction to certain quality that happens to be more prevalent in a specific race most of the time". Ugh Jousayyy, you can do better.
I think if he makes you feel sickened... you should really cut him off. He's just adding unneccessary disgust and stress to you. What a douche he is.

I can't say too much because I have to admit, I've gone through that kind of thing- fetishes. GAH.

Maybe I've said too much already? Bottom line, if he causes discomfort, he's just doing more harm than good, which shouldn't have to be tolerated.
*hugsss*

t3hmimo · Posted: Tue Oct 09, 2007 5:44 pm Post subject:

^ ahahaha I have that for European guys too!

._. but i'd never say it to them (and if i do/did... then i certainly won't anymore!) xD How rude and creepy.
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