little break up rant....

crazykiki · Posted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 12:19 pm Post subject: little break up rant....

i boke up with my boyfriend yesterday and i just got this sudden urge of anger so im going to have my moment of ranting and move on......thank you for reading
when i told him i wanted to break up my heart was racing and pounding and i could barely say it and after i told him all he had to say was ok..just ok i think i deserve more than an ok from him i was with him for a year and a half i poured out my heart and soul and i basically told him everything and now i think it was stupid of me to do that cause now that i look back i think that he wasnt listening, how many times did i repeat that i tutor on monday and wednesday and yet id still have to remind him and he would still call during the time i couldnt talk. Then everytime id say smt like a certain example of why im mad (this geting mad is just recently) he would act like that is why im mad but he just missed the whole concept. And everytime id do smt stupid he would constantly remind me and it would make me feel even more stupid and id tell him i shouldnt have said anything and he still didnt get the message, i actually had to tell him when to not laugh at me and then he wouldnt. he was just all talk and no action and i cant belive that i didnt realise sooner, he would always say that he wanted to get together and then everytime I would arrange smt he wouldnt come because he couldnt get a ride from his parents why couldnt he just take the bus or train if he had such a burning desire to see me ! and then he had the nerve to blame me, saying how i never came over to his place, its because my parents refused to let me go id think for someone who claimed to care about me soo much would understand that and anyway i also just recently banned him from coming over to my house anyway, hes wayy too serious and took what my mom said wayyy to seriously (she told him to let her know when he gets married) and said he felt uncomfortable around her and didnt want to be around her which meant he wasnt going to come to my house so i turned the tables and said no way are you coming here but i guess he didnt believe me cause he kept insinuating when he comes here.
now im wondering if i should actually tell him this or just keep it to myself....any suggestions?
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missally · Supermodel Joined: 06 Dec 2006 Posts: 729 Smiles: +8 544

That really sucks for you... and I know it seems like a waste but you must admit you have learned from it, right?

Although I don't really think it's fair that you have a double standard for him. For example, you said you could never go to his house because your parents wouldn't take you. But when he said it you said "oh well he could've done this, this, and this". If you wanted the relationship to work, you would have to sacrifice and give a little too. I also think if my boyfriend's mom said that to me, I might be a little creeped out by it. Slightly. Talking about it with him though would definitely help though... I think that you two just need more communication, so why not tell him what you just told us and see where that gets you. I mean it can't get any worse.

I'm not trying to be your mother or anything, but that is my honest opinion on the matter, with no sugar coating. I don't want to make you feel bad, but I just don't think it's fair... Good luck though!

Sweet<3 · Posted: Thu Mar 29, 2007 3:42 pm Post subject:

Aww. Well good luck with this, I am sure you'll get through it. There are bigger and better fish to fry!

Acctually when I broke up with my first boyfriend all he said is ok too! I think guys try to avoid conversations like that, maybe they don;t really what to know why, and just move on. Maybe they're better at that than us girls, because it took me a week and planning to break up with him and he can just say ok and be done with it. Anyways :icon_wrong:

crazykiki · Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2007 12:06 pm Post subject:

popculture · Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 6:02 am Post subject:

wow...
I was dealing with like the same thing (from what I read).
I really loved my boyfriend and he was the one person I felt comfortable with. My parents are really strict, so I couldn't just up and go see him, and I would tell him that and he would be like "you can, you just aren't trying." And he would turn EVERYTHING on me! I feel bad now, though, because I think he just likes feeling sorry for himself. So i have to look at the situation and tell myself "no, he doesn't even care enough to fix anything." He hates my parents, my parents don't like him (although my mom still brings him up sometimes). Oh AND even to this day he will im me like "are you getting with so and so?" and gets mad if i'm talking to another guy. I don't know, I just can't seem to have a conversation with him without him yelling at me. (We are still broken up, by the way)
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popculture · Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 6:08 am Post subject:

oh, and I agree with Sweet<3...
I think that's like a guy's defense tactic.
That way you can't go out and be like "yeah, he cried like a baby"
(not that you would), so I wouldn't take it personally, he probably just didn't know what to do
Besides, You deserve MUCH BETTER!

:icon_yahoo:
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crazykiki · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 12:01 pm Post subject:

thanks popculture, we dont talk anymore and im kinda glad at first i thought that maybe after a while we could just be friends but i just look at everything and think that it would be a waste so im slowly but surely getting over him, these past days i was in new york with school and i barely thought of him Happy

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