I feel guilty from damaging her clothes.

Kimmy · Last edited by Kimmy on Mon Jul 28, 2008 11:28 am; edited 1 time in total

I just got back home from Las Vegas yesterday. While I was there, I stayed with relatives at their home. I had a good time there for the most part except for this one incident when my mom's cousin's girlfriend ruined my brand new leather Lacoste shoes that I bought in Las Vegas. Well the shoes aren't really ruined, but at the time, to me, they were ruined.

Soon after I bought the shoes and was ready to put them away in the bedroom, his girlfriend came in to pick up something because her closet was located in the bedroom I was staying in. On her way, we sat down in the room to talk for a while and I showed her the clothes I just bought, including the shoes. I handed the Lacoste shoes to her so she could see them. I asked her what she thought of the shoes and she said she liked them. But she started telling me that the shoes weren't made out of real leather because of the smooth surface. She told me that if the shoes were made out of real leather, they would wrinkle a bit. Real leather or not, 75% leather or 25% leather, I don't care. The real problem is, she started to pinch the upper part of the shoe real hard. And again, she told me the leather wasn't 100% genuine. At first, I didn't think it mattered at all. I put the shoes away and we went off to our own businesses.

It wasn't until the next morning that I observed the shoes and noticed that one shoe was wrinkled and the other shoe wasn't. Instantly, I remember seeing her pinching the shoes. I got really upset at that moment and started to cry. I love those shoes very much and I spent well over 100 dollars US on them! I got mad because of it and wondered she would do that and why she did not handle someone else's belongings with care. Maybe she didn't meant to cause damage to the shoes or maybe she did? I don't know, but at the time, I was convinced that she pinched the shoes on purpose and she used the "false leather" statement as an excuse to pinch the shoes. I thought she only did it because she was jealous of me.

Immediately, I showed the shoes to my mom and she was calm about it. She said it was okay and that the shoes would eventually be wrinkled after wearing them for a while. I don't believe her though, because of the condition of the wrinkle. I don't think the shoe would be wrinkled like that, even after many years of wearing them regularly, unless someone pinched it that way. I asked my mom why she would do such a thing and she said she didn't know. But she did suggest that maybe his girlfriend was jealous. My mom also thought his girlfriend might have stolen 300 US dollars from her wallet that she kept hidden under the bed because his girlfriend is basically the only one who comes in the room regularly because her closet is in the room. My mom isn't upset like me though. She's pretty cool about it. She said if her money is stolen or lost, then let it be. She said there was no point worrying about it because it's already done. All that's left is that she just needs to learn to be more careful with her money the next time. Oh.. I wish I was more like my mom.

I was still mad and obsessed over the damaged shoes. On my last day before I left for home, I went into his girlfriend's closet and ripped her Bebe shirt so that there was a hole in it. That was my revenge and I felt a little better but it wasn't enough. So I went and ripped more of her shirts and dressess and left holes in them. However it is never enough. After the damage was done, I realized that damaging someone else's clothes over a pair of shoes wouldn't solve anything. It only made it worse because my shoes are still damaged and I feel guilty over the damage I have done.

Now I have this heavy feeling and I can't think clearly or focus my other priorities. I regret what I have done, but I don't want to phone to confess and apologize.... And I haven't told anyone yet, even my mom. I don't know what to do right now.
I don't think his girlfriend found out yet because she is pregnent right now. She keeps her maternity clothes separate from her regular ones so she doesn't dig throught the clothes where I did some damage. But she will be giving birth sometime next week and she will soon find out. What should I do???

greenism · Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 6:59 pm Post subject:

Okay, I'm not gonna lie. What you did was really immature, and you definitely should've thought about the consequences before you did it. But since there's nothing about ripping her clothes that you can change, the only decent thing you can do is confess and maybe offer to compensate for what you ruined. I know it's much harder than it sounds, but if you just let her find out later, you'll be so overwhelmed with guilt, and if she finds out it was you, you'll be in even more shit than you already are. If you confess, there's no doubt she'll still be pissed at you, but at least you'll get the credit for being honest. Good luck.
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seasunsky · Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 1:43 pm Post subject:

how nice was the shirt and how much damage did you do? if it's totally obvious that it wasn't just normal wear and tear or a little rip, then fess up, but otherwise, I wouldn't bother. If she doesn't notice I don't think there's any use upsetting her, and even if she does, I sort of doubt she would suspect you.
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Kimmy · Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 2:39 pm Post subject:

^ I didn't really pay attention to the shirt.. It was a Bebe logo shirt. There is a hole at the front. The hole is not small but not large either. But it's not only the Bebe shirt that I damaged. The Bebe shirt was only the first clothing I ripped. I ripped a few other shirts and dresses whose fabric I was able to tear with my bare hands. Most of them were "Cache" brands. I did not tear very large holes but just enough so that it's noticeable.

I don't want to tell my mom because she can be hot-tempered at times and I don't want to get her mad. Now I panic everytime the phone at my place rings because I worry whether it is her calling to tell about her damaged clothes.

MAG · Posted: Wed Jul 30, 2008 12:19 am Post subject:

Sometimes in a fit of anger we do regrettable things. In my view, your behavior was more impulsive than immature. It's rather your thirst of revenge that drove you to rip the clothes of your mom's cousin's girlfriend. The fact that your mom didn't stand at your side probably made you more upset. However, you should have settle this problem amicably in reproaching to the girl her lack of care with your shoes. I understand why you are worried since you damaged her clothes on purpose, contrary to her. I guess you only have two options :

1) Reveal your mistake in pleading the momentary madness on account of the sentimentale value of your leather Lacoste shoes.
Advantage : Clear mind
Inconvenient : Shame

2) Hope she will never accuse you and if she does, deny everything until she forgets about it.
Advantage : No proof
Inconvenient : Guilty conscience

Nobody is perfect and we all do mistakes. Don't blame yourself too hard and learn a lesson from this experience... Icon_hug

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Kimmy · Posted: Wed Jul 30, 2008 6:37 pm Post subject:

^ Thanks for the advice. At the moment though, I don't feel like apologizing because I don't want to face the reactions of the others. Even though apologizing is definitely the better thing to do. I just hope that eventually, I can stop thinking about it and move on in life.

Kimmy · Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 7:44 pm Post subject:

I finally told my mom last night. And today, I phoned his girfriend and apologized to her... not an easy task. I will have to work for a full month to pay off the damage I caused. But I feel much better now.

emcee · Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 8:09 pm Post subject:

^ Good job! That (no doubt) took a lot of courage. Happy

MAG · Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 12:16 am Post subject:

It must be a big relief for you. I'm happy that you finally decided to tell the truth. It certainly took a weight of your mind. The fact that you felt bad after what you did proves that you're a good person inside. A full month to make amends for your mistake is nothing compared to the feeling of guilt.
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that_gurl8 · Supermodel Joined: 27 Dec 2007 Posts: 767 Smiles: +29 712

Wow, I'm happy you said the truth. I know it was probably hard and all, but you don't feel so guilty anymore. It was the right thing to do.
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Shanti · Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 2:07 pm Post subject:

Lol to be honest... I wouldn't have told her the truth.
If you have to pay for the damage you did, then she should pay for what she did too.
I don't think I'm being a bitch in thinking this way, because if she was actually jealous and ruined your shoes on purpose then it's an eye for an eye.
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SUGARR* · Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 6:23 pm Post subject:

^ i'm kind of glad you said taht since i refrained from replying since i knew it was going to sound bad 8)

but you did a good thing though!
.. was she angry ?
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